The Hope That Lasts Beyond Homeschooling
When I think about the years beyond homeschooling, what matters most to me isn’t how well I’ve taught my children.
It’s whether they still want to be with me.
Deep in the quiet of my heart is my secret hope that my children will still want me in their lives long after homeschooling is finished.
That even as our relationship changes with time, we would deeply enjoy one another’s company.
That love, respect, and trust would remain… steady and strong.
I hope our bond would not be fragile or easily broken by seasons, circumstances, or distance…
but rooted, resilient, and lasting.
What Helps This Kind of Love Grow
I believe what protects this kind of lasting relationship is growth. Specifically, my growing and being transformed into who God created me to be.
And I believe the greatest threat to it is staying the same, choosing selfishness, pride, and fear instead of surrender and trust.
Because of this, starting now, while they’re still at home, I want my children to see a mother who is growing.
A mother who is being transformed.
A mother deeply committed to becoming the woman God created her to be so that she can serve her family well.
One who tries, fails, says “I’m sorry,” and tries again.
Who follows God, learns to die to selfishness and pride, and grows in loving without strings attached.
A mother who, even when she succeeds, remains humble, offering a life example that can be learned from.
More than anything, I want my children to know, without question, that they are deeply loved.
Not for what they do.
Not for who they become.
Not for how they reflect on me.
But simply for who they are.
I believe that kind of love is the soil where everything else can grow.
What Quietly Pulls Us Away
What quietly pulls me away from loving like this on ordinary days is the very real fear of making mistakes. And the pressure to get it right.
The belief that if I do something wrong, if I homeschool wrong, I could somehow be responsible for ruining my children’s futures… or even our relationships with each other.
Because of that, when things didn’t go as planned, I almost always believed it was my fault.
I hadn’t planned well enough.
Scheduled carefully enough.
Chosen wisely enough.
I see this pattern even outside of homeschooling.
You see, I could follow a recipe exactly, every step, every measurement, and if it turned out badly, I wouldn’t blame the recipe. I blamed myself.
Somehow, I believed I should have noticed sooner, adjusted faster, saved it before it was ruined.
For a long time, homeschooling felt the same way.
When Trust Replaced Perfection
The pressure to get it right was constant and completely unrealistic. No one has the ability to see everything, anticipate everything, and respond perfectly in every moment… except God.
Learning who He is has been one of the greatest blessings of my life. Because I finally began to understand that when I depend on Him to lead me and trust Him with my whole heart, even my mistakes are not wasted.
I no longer have to be perfect.
Because He is.
I do my best, and then I bring everything to Him, the good, yes, but also the messy, the broken, the imperfect.
And somehow, He uses it.
Transforming it into something beautiful.
Hope Beyond the Tassel
I’m excited about what’s to come.
Oh, I still get beside myself sometimes. I am human, after all.
But now I have tools. I know how to speak truth to my own heart. I remind myself that there is One greater than me, faithfully working everything together for the good of our family.
That truth is rooted so deeply inside of me that it steadies me, even when the storms of life hit the hardest.
And it blesses me to know that God will do the same for my children. As they take their first steps into adulthood, even when they make mistakes, deep inside, I know they will be okay.
More than okay.
Because on this journey, there is one truth I have witnessed over and over again:
God makes everything beautiful in His time.
A Gentle Word for the Mom Still in the Middle
If you are reading these words today, I want you to know I’m writing with tears in my eyes.
Not because this journey has been easy. It hasn’t. It has been so full. Full of ups and downs, fears and questions, moments of joy and moments of deep uncertainty. When I say I understand the fears you feel, I truly mean that. I know them.
But that’s not the reason for these tears.
These tears come because even now, I am overwhelmed by how kind God has been to me. How gentle and faithful His love has proven to be.
There’s that precious word faithful… here’s another one true.
Perhaps you’ve heard the words “I love you” before, and they didn’t feel true. Or they weren’t lived out. But friend, let me tell you, this love is true.
There is a verse in 1 Peter 5:7 (AMP) that says:
“Casting the whole of your care, all your anxieties,
all your worries,
all your concerns,
once and for all,
on Him,
for He cares for you affectionately
and cares about you
watchfully.”
When I sit with these words, meditating on them, I imagine God holding me in the palm of His hand the way we hold something precious… delicate, fragile, deeply loved. Held carefully. Attentively. Never with too much pressure. Always ready to give strength… or to rescue completely… at a moment’s notice.
Just as we would for our own children.
And I don’t believe what God has done for me is special or unique to me alone.
I believe God loves moms.
Indeed, He loves me, and He loves you.
Even now, I imagine Him whispering to our hearts, My love is true. Please, let Me show you.
You can trust Him today ~ with yourself.
With your dreams.
With your children.
Your hopes and your fears.
Your family.
“For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you,”
declares the Lord, “plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
Oh, the sweet freedom and release when we realize with surety…
That God has been
affectionately,
carefully,
watchfully.
in control the whole time.
And yes, yes, yes, I can trust Him.
What You’ll Find in This Section
Beyond the Tassel is about the years after homeschooling and the relationships we are building now that will carry into adulthood.
Here you’ll find reflections on:
These posts focus on what truly lasts—love, trust, humility, and faith that carries into the next generation.
Begin Here
If you’re not sure where to start, these posts may help
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Another year, another graduate. As my third child graduates, I look forward to what’s next with excitement and trust in God’s plans.
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